Six Signs Your Relationship Won't Last Long Term

6 Signs Your Relationship Won't Last Long Term Her Campus Logo By Kayla Dungee in RELATIONSHIPS Posted Mar 07 2018 - 02:00pm Tagged RELATIONSHIPS BREAKUP LONG TERM COUPLE LOVE Share this Not every relationship you experience leads to happily ever after. You can’t mold someone into your idea of prince or princess charming — sometimes two people just don’t work out. Whether you can sense the shakiness in the beginning of the relationship or years down the line, sometimes it’s best to trust your gut feeling. Here are six telltale signs that the relationship you’re in won’t last long term. 1. You mistake comfort for love While it’s important to feel comfortable in your relationship, comfort is one of the key reasons why people stay in relationships that have long passed their expiration date. It can be nerve-wracking to put yourself in the dating pool again, and it’s even easier to hold on to a relationship because of the history you and your SO have. If you find yourself recounting the reasons of why you guys are together and the main reason is because “you’ve been with him for a long time,” you should realize that complacency does not lead to happiness. Lauryn Higgins, a graduate student at the University of Nebraska-Lincoln, knew that her long-term relationship wouldn’t last just because of the longevity. “I was in a three-year relationship and when a friend said to me, ‘Would you want your daughter dating the guy you’re with?’ And my first thought was, ‘I would want more for her,’ I knew I had to start having a conversation with my SO,” she says. Evaluate if just feeling okay within your relationship is where you want to be. Love should be the most gratifying feeling in the world and should never be confused with complacency. 2. You feel like a secret On the contrary, there’s the classic “situationship,” which we’ve all been in or witnessed. Just like you can’t mold a person into your version of perfection, there is no way to force someone into a relationship they don’t want to be in. Ashley Drayton, a Georgia State University graduate, knows that your relationship will remain at a standstill without a few key elements. “If he’s content with having a situationship, staying in the house instead of going on dates, he seems to be hiding you or parts of his life, and he doesn’t put a lot of effort into things regarding you, it’s not going anywhere,” she says. At this point in life, if someone wants you to be a part of their life, it will be clear to you. You shouldn’t be left guessing whether or not you might have a chance of working out. 3. You give and give, and they take and take Sacrifices and compromises are a part of any relationship. However, they should not be coming from only one end. It’s not a good sign if you give so much of yourself to someone with little investment in return. You can easily burn out early on in a relationship if you are constantly giving. Megan Scavo, a sophomore at the University of Central Florida, knows from personal experience that selfishness can cause a relationship should go downhill quickly. “If your SO expects you to plan your entire life around them, such as school, work and friends, it’s not going to last too long,” she says. If you find that you are the only one sacrificing up your time, money and energy, recognize that that is not normal. 4. Your friends and family can tell it won’t last Nobody is in your relationship but you and your SO, so sometimes it can hard for outsiders to judge your relationship. However, the saying “Mama knows best” may not be so cliché in this case. Love can blind you enough to the point that you don’t recognize warning signs. “If your friends tell you they don’t see you with him forever or that he’s not the one, listen,” Megan says. “Your friends know you better than you know yourself sometimes.” You may have that one friend who doubts every relationship you get into, but if the overwhelming majority of your friends and family do not see things working out for the best, you should at least listen to them as to why. They have a more objective view of the relationship. Plus, if they know you well enough, they can tell when things just click and when they don’t. Related: 5 Ways to Let Go of a Relationship That Ended Before it Started 5. You try to justify bad behavior Your SO is not immune from making mistakes. It’s completely understandable to forgive small mistakes, but your SO should not get a free pass on everything. Something that should be immediately addressed is any form of abuse. “If he says rude things or degrades you, even if it’s out of character when angry, that’s a definite red flag,” Megan says. “Way too many women put up with that too long.” Rachel Petty, a senior at James Madison University, advises women to trust their gut feeling when it comes to a bad feeling about a relationship. “If you find yourself making excuses for your SO and letting big things slide, that’s a sign you should probably end things,” she says. “If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t.” You can't shake off your intuition telling you something is wrong forever. In many cases, our feelings of uneasiness are justified. 6. Your core values do not align Opposites attract in many cases, but in some cases they cannot work long term. Having differences with others is what makes humans unique, but some differences may be too big to ignore. Alyssa*, a junior at Kennesaw State University, could not look past a difference in religion between her and her SO. “I am religious and my ex was not,” she says. “At first, I looked past this difference. But when he became comfortable enough, he would essentially make fun of me for believing in something. That’s where I had to evaluate if I could handle that intolerance for years to come.” The important thing to remember is even though you and your SO have differences, there should be mutual respect for each other’s beliefs. You should never feel ashamed or scared to practice your beliefs because your SO believes the opposite. Envision your future a few years down the road. If you cannot see your future with your SO and their current behavior, it is time to have a conversation with them. Whether or not you chose to end things or work on things is up to you, but know that you do not have to put up with behavior that doesn’t mesh with you.

Fathers United Women's Coalition Legal Clinic

website http://fathersunitedwomenscoalition.com/ Call 703 971 2379 for information. Text 571 214 2432 Fathers United and Women's Coalition 7 pm Room 265 Meeting this Thursday, Feb 8 2018, at Messiah United Methodist Church, 6215 Rolling Rd Springfield VA22152 Stephen Hoffman will be moderating. MY EMAIL stephenhoffman2000@yahoo .com The lawyer will be John Bauserman fathers United for Equal Rights and Women's Coalition of VA and DC will hold its regular meeting on Thursday in Springfield. Encourage friends to attend who have domestic relations issues.Make 5 calls or emails or text, please!! We want members to attend even if they have no immediate problem so that they can help others. It is very helpful to have old-timers present. The lawyer is scheduled to arrive at 8:00 pm and stays until about 9:30 pm depending on the number of questions. Bring any legal papers including motions, orders, and agreements. If you have specific questions now, you may send them by e-mail. The lawyer may be able to bring material, which is on point. COST: Dues are $45/year for the first year payable at $15/meeting until dues are paid in full. At the present time renewal is only $30/year if membership is continuous

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Legal Clinic Father's United Women"s Legal Clinic 2018

Please put these meetings on your calender, public service announcements or web site!How to get there:From D.C., take 95 South, take the Springeld Exit and then take a right onto Keene Mill Road (644 West). At the seventh trac light take a right onto Rolling Road, then take the right after the McDonalds into the Church parking lot, and proceed to Room 265.2018 Meeting ScheduleFathers United for Equal Rights & Women’s CoalitionMEETINGS START AT 7PMLEGAL CLINIC STARTS AT 8PMMessiah United Methodist Church6215 Rolling Road in Springeld, VAMeetings are held every other Thursday at 7pm.Meetings are scheduled for the following Thursdays: • January 11, 25• February 8, 22• March 8, 22• April 5, 19• May 3, 17, 31• June 14, 28Annual dues for legal clinic $45 (or three $15 payments).Email: Stephenhoman2000@yahoo.comPhone: 703-971-2379 • Text: 571-214-2432 • Meeting Announcements: 703-347-6518Website: fathersunitedwomenscoalition.comFREE book to all attendees:“The Best Parent is Both Parents”While supplies last!• July 12, 26• August 9, 23• September 6, 20• October 4, 18• November 1, 15, 29• Dec 13, 27Visit Fathers United for Equal Rights & Women’s Coalition on Facebookor at our blog:fuerwc.blogspot.comDESIGNED AND PRINTED IN THE USAPlease put these meetings on your calender, public service announcements or web site!How to get there:From D.C., take 95 South, take the Springeld Exit and then take a right onto Keene Mill Road (644 West). At the seventh trac light take a right onto Rolling Road, then take the right after the McDonalds into the Church parking lot, and proceed to Room 265.2018 Meeting ScheduleFathers United for Equal Rights & Women’s CoalitionMEETINGS START AT 7PMLEGAL CLINIC STARTS AT 8PMMessiah United Methodist Church6215 Rolling Road in Springeld, VAMeetings are held every other Thursday at 7pm.Meetings are scheduled for the following Thursdays: • January 11, 25• February 8, 22• March 8, 22• April 5, 19• May 3, 17, 31• June 14, 28Annual dues for legal clinic $45 (or three $15 payments).Email: Stephenhoman2000@yahoo.comPhone: 703-971-2379 • Text: 571-214-2432 • Meeting Announcements: 703-347-6518Website: fathersunitedwomenscoalition.comFREE book to all attendees:“The Best Parent is Both Parents”While supplies last!• July 12, 26• August 9, 23• September 6, 20• October 4, 18• November 1, 15, 29• Dec 13, 27Visit Fathers United for Equal Rights & Women’s Coalition on Facebookor at our blog:fuerwc.blogspot.comDESIGNED AND PRINTED IN THE USA

Fathers United Women's Coalition Legal Clinic Nov 16 2017

website http://fathersunitedwomenscoalition.com/ Call 703 971 2379 for information. Text 571 214 2432 Fathers United and Women's Coalition 7 pm Room 265 Meeting this Thursday, November 16, 2017, at Messiah United Methodist Church, 6215 Rolling Rd Springfield VA22152 Stephen Hoffman will be moderating. MY EMAIL stephenhoffman2000@yahoo .com The lawyer will be John Bauserman fathers United for Equal Rights and Women's Coalition of VA and DC will hold its regular meeting on Thursday in Springfield. Encourage friends to attend who have domestic relations issues.Make 5 calls or emails or text, please!! We want members to attend even if they have no immediate problem so that they can help others. It is very helpful to have old-timers present. The lawyer is scheduled to arrive at 8:00 pm and stays until about 9:30 pm depending on the number of questions. Bring any legal papers including motions, orders, and agreements. If you have specific questions now, you may send them by e-mail. The lawyer may be able to bring material, which is on point. COST: Dues are $45/year for the first year payable at $15/meeting until dues are paid in full. At the present time renewal is only $30/year if membership is continuous

How to count down succes

​How to count down to success Jul 25, 2017, 3:15am EDT Updated Jul 26, 2017, 9:17am EDT Michael Houlihan & Bonnie Harvey Contributing Writer RELATED CONTENT How to make sure you hear the good ideas that will improve your firm How to take control by aiming, not blaming ​7 steps to infuse entrepreneurial thinking into company culture We are delighted annually to be part of the U.S. Immersion Program of Nanyang University in Singapore. The program calls for students to visit businesses in Silicon Valley and the East Coast, with a trip to the Sonoma County wine country as well. This year we hosted 120 international graduate students studying for their master's degree in technopreneurship and innovation. Everyone should have happy launches and landings in their new businesses. Enlarge Everyone should have happy launches and landings in their new businesses. GETTY IMAGES (IN8FINITY) What could we give these aspiring entrepreneurs that would help them the most in their journey? How about a Countdown to Success? It’s our list of understandings necessary for a successful launch and happy landing. FIVE: The 5 guiding principles for success (GPS) Make mistakes W-R-I-T-E.(Not just right). Write down all your mistakes, and more importantly, identify all the documents that need to be created, changed or improved so there will be no repeat. Put yourself in the other guy’s shoes. In every relationship with your people, your vendors or your customers, ask what is important to them. Then, give them what they want first to get what you want. Forge strategic alliances. Ask, “Who benefits if I benefit?” Those are your potential allies. Vendors can be bankers by extending credit and terms. Customers can be bankers by paying in cash. Treat them like partners and share your plans. Sales is king. Achieve a positive cash flow as soon as you can. Don’t expand too quickly. Start small and learn how to get your act together before you take your show on the road. Without sales, all else is moot. Service what you sell. You are not judged so much by how well you do when everything goes right but by how well you do when there is a problem. FOUR: The 4 stages of business development Startup. Goal is proving the viability of the concept. Danger is chewing up investment money on overhead and production without sales. Buildup. Goal is securing a few big customers that can sustain the business without more investment. Danger is having all your eggs in one basket and being discontinued. Buildout. Goal is diversifying your customer base so you can sustain a significant hit. Danger is spreading yourself too thin, not servicing what you sell, and significantly underestimating the cost of sales Enterprise. Goal is continuing to deliver high quality and service until you get noticed and become an acquisition target. Danger is losing the entrepreneurial spirit and taking sales for granted.

Drowning

How We Drown Is Not Like In The Movies EMAIL FACEBOOK LINKEDIN TWITTER REDDIT PRINT Related articles We Are Killing Ourselves (Don t) leave them kids alone at the kiddie pool Health and Safety Tips for Your Summer Vacation (2005) Health and Safety Tips for Your Summer Vacation Dispatch: Real Risks: Drowning and Lightning By Jamie Wells, M.D. — May 24, 2017 Credit: Shutterstock With Memorial Day weekend and peak drowning season upon us, there is no better time than the present to debunk some myths about how we drown. And, it isn’t how you would think. An average of 3,536 fatal unintentional (non-boating) drownings occur each year in the United States inflicting anguish that could, in many cases, be prevented. Add on to this the 332 who succumb annually to boating-related incidents. Since over half of drowning victims get admitted to the hospital or transferred for comprehensive care, the often long-term devastating consequences of nonfatal drowning events will be elucidated here as well. (1) Buzzwords abound these days even in the drowning arena. It seems the topic has gotten branded. Terms like “silent drowning,” “secondary drowning” or “dry drowning” may complicate the picture. The important word to emphasize is “drowning.” The concept of greatest import is the realization that precautions and awareness should dominate when any body of water is in close proximity albeit a frozen lake, the bathtub or residential pool. Who Drowns Drowning can impact all ages, ethnicities, genders and health status. Those sick or well can be affected. Due to the tremendous variability of water safety, activities, environments (e.g. pool or open water) and conditions (e.g. inclement weather, currents, salt vs fresh water), even an excellent swimmer shouldn’t have a false sense of immunity from the subject. That said, knowing how to swim is a crucial benefit and important whether adult or child. As is knowledge of CPR (cardiopulmonary resuscitation) and its rapid initiation—the earlier it is received the better one’s chances. Here are some U.S. statistics on drowning (2,3): Roughly 1 in 5 people who die from drowning are children 14 or younger— 2nd leading cause of unintentional injury-related death in ages 1-14 behind motor vehicle accidents Almost 80% of people who die are male Highest rate in children ages 1-4. Top cause of death in this population behind congenital anomalies— most take place in residential swimming pools, for infants <1 bathtubs rank highest and buckets remain a hazard 5th leading cause of death by unintentional injury for ALL ages African-American children (ages 5-19) are 5.5 times more likely to drown in pools than peers (4) Primary and secondary causes of drowning put people at risk. For instance, a primary drowning incident would entail drowning of a healthy toddler in a pool. A secondary culprit would be one prompted by the effects of trauma, substance abuse or drug use, a disease or its treatment. Illnesses or the like that impair the physical mobility, consciousness, or mentation of a person like an undiagnosed cardiac arrhythmia or intractable seizures require special restrictions and surveillance. Clearly, those with specific medical conditions and on therapies that can impede their cognition or level of consciousness are imperiled. Anyone at risk of fainting (See Why We Faint), seizing or prone to low blood sugars (hypoglycemia) are in jeopardy. Suicide or self-harm can be another etiology. Throughout the span of the life cycle, there are occupational, situational, and recreational differences that contribute to your risk. In early infancy and childhood, a momentary lapse of adult supervision is all that is required while mopping the floor to answering a phone call when bathing a little one. As we age, there is a rise in drownings in natural waters. Adolescents might partake in riskier endeavors like diving under dangerous conditions with shallow water, while intoxicated or via extreme water sports. Adults and the elderly can have heart attacks and key medical conditions, abuse substances and can also sustain head or other traumas. Work-related risks are tied to certain professions while hurricanes represent one of many of nature’s unpredictable hazards. How We Drown Hollywood routinely depicts a drowning victim as a person shouting for help, flailing and thrashing about in the water. When someone can shout and speak, this actually implies they are getting the oxygen they need. By no means should you ignore this person as they are in apparent distress—they might be injured, be panicking and not know how to swim or be at risk of imminent drowning. More often, in the actual drowning person silence is the deafening factor. It happens quickly, quietly and without warning. As the person is gasping for every breath and concentrating on getting air, they will typically not speak, fatigue and be in a vertical position with their head bobbing in and out of water. Their effort to swim falls short and traditionally keeps them stationary. The mouth is usually open and the head tilted back as they attempt to leverage the water beneath by extending their arms outward and pushing downward. By the time it is noticed, the individual can be unconscious from hypoxia and submerged. Depending on body size, age, clinical and environmental factors, the rate of drowning can be quite quick between seconds to under a minute. (See this instructional video (5)) When Do We Drown Though it is prevalent this season (May to August), the issue is a year-round one that warrants diligence to avoid. For example, in the cold weather adverse events arise from playing or landing on frozen bodies of water that make you vulnerable to falling through cracks and weakened areas. Hypothermia can threaten survival and occurs even in more moderate weather that exists the majority of the year. This consequence is not exclusive to winter. In general, drowning is an indoor and outdoor concern. We worsen our chances of survival when we do not know how to swim. Due to size, younger children need even less volume of exposure to demonstrate symptoms of drowning. What Happens When We Survive Drowning or Submersion With near drowning or submersion comes morbidity or no morbidity. Ideally, the patient is discovered before loss of consciousness while alert and minimally impaired. This is your best shot at no morbidity from the event. If CPR needs to be initiated, the outcomes are worse. With greater delay in CPR often comes a more ominous result. In severe cases, brain damage, learning and memory problems and a persistent vegetative state is possible. It is very important for you or your child to be evaluated by a trained medical professional and emergency services after a near drowning or submersion incident. Symptoms can evolve, progress and pose great risk hours after the inciting event. You may think your child appears well, but there can be a lag before untoward effects come to light and when they do the decline can be fast. Multi-organ failure, chemical aspiration, pulmonary edema, acute respiratory distress, metabolic disturbances, and hypoxic injury to the brain are a mere few examples of serious health consequences. Remember, there are many variables in the mix that guide the extent of damage. Though there is much we can do today with medical advances, avoidance of drowning is in yours and your loved one’s best interest. Take Home Messages Exercise good judgement and be proactive—e.g. know yours and your child’s limitations, alcohol and illicit substances add danger to water activities, avoid diving into the shallow end or where there are many rocks, don’t leave a child unattended around any body of water, wear life jackets when boating, boat safely Be a responsible pool owner—e.g. have essential barriers around pool. Pool safely, see here. Take swim lessons and learn CPR— early bystander CPR makes a world of difference! Make prevention a family affair— it is never too late to learn to swim. Be partners with lifeguards—keep your eyes on your child at all times and don’t swim alone Seek emergency medical services when an incident arises, as time is of the essence. Submersion injuries can evolve and worsen, so don’t miss the window where help can be crucial in improving an outcome. A medical professional can discern the difference. Be aware of your surroundings and the signs of a person in trouble Encourage close observation of children With some simple steps to ensure summer and water safety, you will enjoy the holidays and season creating a lifetime of wonderful memories! (see Notes section, 6) Source(s): (1) (2) The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC)— Unintentional Drowning: Get the Facts, see here. (3) See here and here. (4) To review the CDC morbidity and mortality report, see “Racial/Ethnic Disparities in Fatal Unintentional Drowning Among Persons Aged Less Than or Equal to 29 Years—United States, 1999-2010." Note(s): (5) I urge you to look at posted videos of active drowning on youtube as there are many. They underscore that people can be swimming close by and be unaware of the struggle taking place within arm’s length. Knowing what to look for is crucial to early identification of drowning. This is the difference between life and death and a life without disabilities as a result of delayed intervention. Always be aware of what is going on around you. (6) The CDC is an excellent resource on prevention of drowning and water safety. Their National Action Plan is here.